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Online dating is very similar, yet so much better, than meeting someone in person in many ways.

When you meet someone in person, for the first time, 9 times out of 10 you will judge them by the way they look. Hair, face, eyes, clothes, voice, etc. In fact, so many ‘in person’ meetings go side-ways because of the initial impression (ah yes…first impression). When you meet someone online, what you read, and see, is in fact your first impression.  But so different than the first meeting off line. Why?  Because through online dating you take the time to get to know who the person is ‘inside’, the outside really becomes secondary in so many ways.

Let’s look at some basics.

Most of us are judged, or we judge,  what we first see, in first meetings, whether it is work or personal.

Some folks are lucky, in the ‘physical’ sense, with long blonde hair and blue eyes – or –  6’2″ and a great build. But in fact, we are really ’us’ underneath.  The outward part is really now ’who we really are’.  On the surface, we are just this physical that God gave us. Some lucky, some not.  And as us Baby Boomers age the outward is not as great as it use to be -right?  But the ‘inner’ has grown and so much better.

So if you are saying there are “losers” out there, yah maybe, but try to look past the physical.

If someone messages you who is 350lbs and bald, but you were looking for somone who is  200lbs and with curly greying hair, don’t ignore the contact.  That person may have the heart and soul that would love you forever and give you everything in life.

My point here, and jump up and down on me if you think I am wrong, is that I do not believe we should judge anyone by their ‘cover’. Who they/we are “inside” is so much more important than who they/we are “outside”. 

If you do not find the person physically attractive, no chemistry, then yes it probably won’t work, of course.  But when you are on an Online Dating membership site at least you can learn about someone from the inside out. Chances are you will love the inside and learn to love the outside with the imperfections aging brings.

I happily advise you to take that step, I did and we have been married for over 7 years now (yes I am a Baby Boomer).

Check out our site here:

http://www.babyboomerdatingsite.com/

My hubby and I (who met through online dating) were looking through old high school annuals tonight.  It was interesting to see how people looked then and now.

One thing we talked about was how during those days it was hard – not feeling that we looked good.  That we did not have the right body or the right hair, etc.

So here we are, and most of us thinking the same thing at this point in our lives.  Why?  Good question.

We are long past all of that who has the best body, or who has the biggest boobs.  We are now, or should be at, who we want to spend the rest of our life with that has more to do with who the person is and less to do with their physical appearance.

Yes it is important to feel an attraction to your online dating partner, yes it is important that you physically connect, but at the Boomer / Zoomer stage it is way more important that you connect on more levels. So keep that in mind when you are going on an Online Dating Site.

Find out more here and sites: http://www.babyboomerdatingsite.com/

Well after a long period of not posting at Blogger we decided to get rolling again… But with a fresh installation of WordPress instead of using Blogger. Stay tuned… Just got this up and will be posting and adding features.  Thanks for dropping by!

Jaca