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Boomers face different issues than younger generations when it comes to online dating.  We may have grown children, grand children and aging parents.  These can have an effect on how you view online dating and how you connect with possible mates.

I don’t think you necessarily have to find a mate that matches your family dynamics, but it is something you need to think about.

Let’s look at some scenarios:

1. You have grown children and grand children that live near you.  This would mean that in all likelihood they would visit, possibly often.  So you would probably want to look for a man/woman who also has children and grand children as they would be more comfortable with the ‘visits’.  Now that is not to say a man/woman who does not have children wouldn’t be.  But if you did contact a man/woman who did not have children you would want to tell them about your family dynamics.  You would also, most likely, want to date someone in your own area.

2. You have grown children and grand children that don’t live near you.  So looking for a man/woman who also has children and grand children may not be an issue. Yes you and your new love may visit them, but on a day to day basis it would not be an issue.  You could look for a man/woman who did or did not have children.  You would just need to be open about your family dynamics so it would come as a shock when you want to visit them.  You could date someone local, another city or another country.

3. You don’t have children and may not want the ‘limitations’ of dating someone who has children / grand children.  For example you may want to travel extensively in your retirement.  You may want to only connect with men/women who don’t have children as well. That is not to say a man/woman with children or grand children couldn’t travel, but there certainly would be more to consider. You could date someone local, in another city, or another country.

4. You are a woman, or man, who didn’t have children but actually would love the family dynamics of children and grand children. When you connect with someone through online dating you just need to be open about that desire so the person you connect with feels confident that their family will not become an issue.

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Jan

I read an article in the New York Times about Baby Boomer women and having long hair.  It was about how women were brought up to believe that when they hit a certain age they should cut their hair. How having long gray hair was simply not acceptable.
 
As a Baby Boomer with long hair it made me start to think about all sorts of issues Baby Boomers face when online dating and when online dating goes off line.

Baby Boomers don’t face the same issues as younger online daters.  We are not looking at profiles wondering if – would she be a good candidate for creating a family – would he be a good father, for example.

Baby Boomers are looking more for compatibility, common interests, a sense of humour, etc.

So let’s look at what Baby Boomers may face:
 
So my first example is a woman with long gray hair.  Should she worry about it?  Should she cut her hair thinking she may appear more attractive to men? I say no, unless it is something you want to do for you.

Should you think of having some work done to get rid of some of those wrinkles?  Only if you feel that will make YOU feel better. 
 
Other issues that may face Baby Boomers when they meet someone through online dating.

What do you disclose when online dating?
 
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As more of us baby boomers head towards retirement, with no love partner, getting out there and doing something  to finding a love online can be positive, empowering and fullfillin for us.

There is no need to face retirement alone, whether a male for female baby boomer.  But if you are, you can use your retiment time searching for love at an online dating site.

Don’t sit around at home, alone, wishing you had a love in your lifte, when you could be online finding the love of your life on a online dating website meeting all kinds of people just like you.

There many great Baby Boomer online dating sites where you will find people who share your experiences.

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Jan

Its well known this time of year can be especially lonely for singles. For those younger its often kind of,  ‘oh well, that’s okay, I still have all my friends to hang with’. But for our age group it can be much more complex and often the circumstances are sadder. The holiday season can really ‘rub it in’. I know I used to dread this time of year before I met the love of my life at an online dating site.

Perhaps that’s what brought you to our site at this time. You’ve had enough of being alone and want to find someone to be with. As the expression goes, “there is no time like the present”. No need to wait for the new year, next week or even tomorrow. Now is the time. Take a chance. Get out there and date again.

And while I’m lathering on the cliches, I must not forget one of my favorites… “Life is too short” for hanging around lonely when there’s a world of wonderful people waiting to meet you. You may have to ‘kiss a few toads’ (or coyotes) to meet your prince or princess, but that’s part of the adventure… Just keep your lip balm handy and move on the next. Actually, one of the things I’ve always thought was great about meeting people online is you can ease into a relationship and get to know someone before meeting in person. Keeps the lip balm expenditure to a minimum.

Some newly single baby boomers (usually men – but us Cougars are appearing!) seem to want to date people who are years, or even decades younger.

One reason, it seems, is that it makes them feel “young”. In the female case, the young men are about at the same sexual level as they are. But, if you really think about it, what does the other (much younger) person really see in you? Could it be stability, statis, money?

Are you looking for “arm candy” or ‘fun in the sack’?

Hey no problem with that. You are likely to have a good time but not a long time.

Just make sure that you are not mixing your desires for a long term relationship.

So when decide what online dating site to register with (and yes, you can register with more than one) just keep in mind what you really want to find in a love relationship.

People that are in the 50 plus age range will probably not be as comfortable with the computer and online contact as the younger generation. That’s just normal.

For any age, but especially the Baby Boomer group, it is so wonderful to be able to reach out and find friends and potential love matches. A good number of people in the group are starting over after a divorce or death of a partner. Many may feel that they don’t have another chance at love. Not so!! You have equal opportunity, if not more, because of life experience and being more open to the little flaws here and there that the path of life has brought us.

Wouldn’t it be great if you and your child/parent/grandparent found love at the same time? Hey maybe you could have a double wedding!!

Yes you can find love online – trust me, I did!

Your age does not mean you are old..  it’s only a number!

I spoke with woman a couple of days ago who told me that since she had switched to Single Seniors Meet that she has had many more contacts than other online dating sites she had used. She had contacts quickly and interesting men as well. She was thrilled! I spoke with her again today and she believes she has already met the man she truly believes is her soulmate (time will tell). This is someone who had tried other popular sites, but she said with this online dating membership site things happened quickly and wonderfully. She couldn’t be happier!

So don’t be put off by an online dating site because of the pictures you may see. They do not necessarily reflect who are the members. Plus, it is important to keep in mind that what you see in the mirror – someone is going to be thrilled to look at each and every day. Trust me.

Single Seniors Meet is relatively new name, it use to be Prime Singles, but the company that created this dating site is very well known and respected. I think it was incredibly wise of them to open up SeniorSingles for all the babyboomers who are looking for love.

As a boomer you don’t consider yourself a senior? Me either. But this dating site at least gives you the opportunity to meet someone in your age range.

The bottom line is no matter what age you are, you have a choice with a great online dating membership site and yes you can find your love online! I did!!

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I had a dream the other night where once I reached the outcome of the dream I thought I could do better,  so I asked it I could redo it. I was told that yes I could go back.  I asked if everything would still be the same expect for the changes I wanted to make, and I was told yes  When I went back everything had changed, nothing was the same, I couldn’t even start again. Of course this was a dream, but it holds true in life.
 
When you are looking at connecting with someone through online dating you may hesitate for a number of reasons.  Maybe he/she looks great, sounds great, but maybe you feel you are not ready yet.  Or maybe you see someone and want to try to connect with but they don’t live near you, or they don’t say they like gardening (which is your passion), or … So you don’t connect.  Then you think about it for awhile and decide you want to connect but….
 
When you find someone that you feel an attraction to – who has similar interests, who just feels kinda right – don’t hesitate.  Sending a message doesn’t mean you are making a commitment, but not sending a message could mean you have lost a connection to someone that could be a life long partner.
 
I am telling you this because when I was online dating I did hesitate on contacting the person I found interesting but the hesitation was only to think it about it (not even over-night) and now we have been married for almost 7 years now. If I hesitated too long this may not have happened at all.

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One of the comments I hear from female Baby Boomers is that there are no good men out there 50+ – and if there are they are looking for women half their age.

Ok, FBB (Female Baby Boomers) take another look at online dating. Not only are there Boomer men looking for a kindred spirit, a woman who understands the same type of experiences, the same era, BUT there are also younger men looking to for love with us FBB. Yes you read that right. We are in demand (Go Cougars!!)

Yes online dating sites use to be for the young but not any more. Online dating sites are more established, more secure and reaching out more to us boomers – yes us boomer females.

Take the plunge and find that special someone!  Trust me, you will – I did!!

Jan

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In prior generations most people thought they were marrying for keeps. Now it is estimated that a good 50-60% of all marriages end in divorce. In this day and age it is nothing to get married several times with kids from more than one spouse and large extended families.

As Baby Boomers approach their 50’s and 60’s many have found themselves alone, through divorce or death of a spouse. Since most people don’t want to grow old by themselves, the baby boomers find themselves back in the dating scene, which now is very much different then when we first dated. Dating, particularly at an older age and if you have been out of that ‘scene’ for a long time can be frightening. Fear not!

Connecting online gives you a chance to slowly get to know someone, hey…a lot of someones! You don’t have to do anything until you feel comfortable. As you spend time talking with people, getting to know them, you will find that you become more and more confident about yourself and taking a chance at love again.

One of the best ways, besides being set-up by a friend, is online dating, trust me. There are many online dating sites for Baby Boomers. Check some of them out www.babyboomerdatingsite.com