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Your age does not mean you are old..  it’s only a number!

I spoke with woman a couple of days ago who told me that since she had switched to Single Seniors Meet that she has had many more contacts than other online dating sites she had used. She had contacts quickly and interesting men as well. She was thrilled! I spoke with her again today and she believes she has already met the man she truly believes is her soulmate (time will tell). This is someone who had tried other popular sites, but she said with this online dating membership site things happened quickly and wonderfully. She couldn’t be happier!

So don’t be put off by an online dating site because of the pictures you may see. They do not necessarily reflect who are the members. Plus, it is important to keep in mind that what you see in the mirror – someone is going to be thrilled to look at each and every day. Trust me.

Single Seniors Meet is relatively new name, it use to be Prime Singles, but the company that created this dating site is very well known and respected. I think it was incredibly wise of them to open up SeniorSingles for all the babyboomers who are looking for love.

As a boomer you don’t consider yourself a senior? Me either. But this dating site at least gives you the opportunity to meet someone in your age range.

The bottom line is no matter what age you are, you have a choice with a great online dating membership site and yes you can find your love online! I did!!

http://www.babyboomerdatingsite.com/

My hubby and I (who met through online dating) were looking through old high school annuals tonight.  It was interesting to see how people looked then and now.

One thing we talked about was how during those days it was hard – not feeling that we looked good.  That we did not have the right body or the right hair, etc.

So here we are, and most of us thinking the same thing at this point in our lives.  Why?  Good question.

We are long past all of that who has the best body, or who has the biggest boobs.  We are now, or should be at, who we want to spend the rest of our life with that has more to do with who the person is and less to do with their physical appearance.

Yes it is important to feel an attraction to your online dating partner, yes it is important that you physically connect, but at the Boomer / Zoomer stage it is way more important that you connect on more levels. So keep that in mind when you are going on an Online Dating Site.

Find out more here and sites: http://www.babyboomerdatingsite.com/

I had a dream the other night where once I reached the outcome of the dream I thought I could do better,  so I asked it I could redo it. I was told that yes I could go back.  I asked if everything would still be the same expect for the changes I wanted to make, and I was told yes  When I went back everything had changed, nothing was the same, I couldn’t even start again. Of course this was a dream, but it holds true in life.
 
When you are looking at connecting with someone through online dating you may hesitate for a number of reasons.  Maybe he/she looks great, sounds great, but maybe you feel you are not ready yet.  Or maybe you see someone and want to try to connect with but they don’t live near you, or they don’t say they like gardening (which is your passion), or … So you don’t connect.  Then you think about it for awhile and decide you want to connect but….
 
When you find someone that you feel an attraction to – who has similar interests, who just feels kinda right – don’t hesitate.  Sending a message doesn’t mean you are making a commitment, but not sending a message could mean you have lost a connection to someone that could be a life long partner.
 
I am telling you this because when I was online dating I did hesitate on contacting the person I found interesting but the hesitation was only to think it about it (not even over-night) and now we have been married for almost 7 years now. If I hesitated too long this may not have happened at all.

http://www.babyboomerdatingsite.com/

One of the comments I hear from female Baby Boomers is that there are no good men out there 50+ – and if there are they are looking for women half their age.

Ok, FBB (Female Baby Boomers) take another look at online dating. Not only are there Boomer men looking for a kindred spirit, a woman who understands the same type of experiences, the same era, BUT there are also younger men looking to for love with us FBB. Yes you read that right. We are in demand (Go Cougars!!)

Yes online dating sites use to be for the young but not any more. Online dating sites are more established, more secure and reaching out more to us boomers – yes us boomer females.

Take the plunge and find that special someone!  Trust me, you will – I did!!

Jan

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In prior generations most people thought they were marrying for keeps. Now it is estimated that a good 50-60% of all marriages end in divorce. In this day and age it is nothing to get married several times with kids from more than one spouse and large extended families.

As Baby Boomers approach their 50’s and 60’s many have found themselves alone, through divorce or death of a spouse. Since most people don’t want to grow old by themselves, the baby boomers find themselves back in the dating scene, which now is very much different then when we first dated. Dating, particularly at an older age and if you have been out of that ‘scene’ for a long time can be frightening. Fear not!

Connecting online gives you a chance to slowly get to know someone, hey…a lot of someones! You don’t have to do anything until you feel comfortable. As you spend time talking with people, getting to know them, you will find that you become more and more confident about yourself and taking a chance at love again.

One of the best ways, besides being set-up by a friend, is online dating, trust me. There are many online dating sites for Baby Boomers. Check some of them out www.babyboomerdatingsite.com

I don’t know where I got this idea, but when I finally decided that I was ready for a committed relationship, after what seemed like a lifetime of grieving Mike, I figured that it would take just a few months, or perhaps a little more than a few months, but for sure, I thought, with in a year, I would have met my second true love and be good to go. I forgot the fact that I got married to my late husband at the ripe old age of thirty-six. It took us that long to find each other.

But now I was 50, older and hopefully wiser, and I just assumed that men my age were like plums ready for the plucking.  How hard could it be? All I really wanted was a nice guy. Just a plain ole nice guy.

You know…

• A guy who I could talk to; who would listen to me as I poured my heart out.
• A guy who would be OK with the fact that I still occasionally thought about Mike and who would also love my daughter.
• A guy who was financially solvent and would love to travel (on my schedule, of course).
• A guy who didn’t smoke or drink and who believed in God. He would also be bright, a good kisser, love his work, be self assured without being cocky, be generous, kind and respectful, socially comfortable, and he would know how to fight fair.
• And he had to be OK with giving me lots of space. I didn’t want any one hanging on me.
• Oh yeah, he had to smell good, he didn’t have to be gorgeous, (that never really mattered to me) but he had to feel good about who he was.
• Oh, and it would be good if he could dance and ski be willing to do the dishes and occasionally vacuum.  And get along with my friends.
• He would love coffee in bed on Sunday mornings and even better, he would want to be the one to make it and he would read the New York Times, although I suppose I could settle for the Globe.
• He would definitely be a liberal. And he had to like dogs. (My cat will be leaving the house when my daughter does so I did not feel the need to include ‘must love cats’ and furthermore I didn’t want to make my list impossibly difficult.) 
• And just a few more things…he had to love to laugh, to appreciate classical music, be mentally stable, or at least as stable as I was, (not all that hard) and he HAD to be healthy. (After living with Mike’s cancer for over 10 years, I felt fully justified in asking for a clean bill of health.  This would include satisfactory results of an MRI, CAT scan, PET scan, liver scan, blood work, EEG and cardiogram. In return, I would spring for the coffee.)

And finally, he would have to think I am sexy, or at least sexy for a 50 something, he would like to read, he would be into learning, and he would have a clean house.

Ok. Maybe I wanted a bit more than a plain ole nice guy. But now that I was done crying, wasn’t the world was my oyster? Weren’t there plenty of fish in the sea? Couldn’t I just apply “The Secret” and materialize my next man?

I gathered up my can-do attitude and wrote a killer profile.  It was a work of art as well as honest and with the help of spell check, there were no typos. I used phrases like “classic looking”, “mildly eccentric” and “slightly irreverent” and I admitted that I liked to shovel snow. What sane man wouldn’t find that totally appealing???

And then I waited. Being a child of the 50′s, although quite liberated, I was not going to chase after him. He was going to have to find me. And after what felt like 8 years, (actually it was about 2 days), the emails began trickling in. And I do mean, trickling.

I have learned a whole lot from Internet dating.

Read more of this article here:

http://www.babyboomerdatingsite.com/online-dating-articles.html

Mie Elmhirst, Coach, Guest Author
Coach for Widows
www.widowsbreathe.com

I recently connected with a childhood friend.  Don’t you just love the internet?!

Both of us are newly married.  I am just over 6 years and she is just over 2 years.  This is not a first marriage for either of us. When I asked her how she met her husband she told me at an online dating site.  I excitedly told her that’s how I met my husband too.  How exciting to share this!

She said she is not a ‘geek’, did not use the internet much at all, but decided to sign up at an online dating site.  The short story is she saw his profile and clicked to send a message, he replied, they chatted, met, and the rest is ‘history’.

What I want you to know from this story is:

1) No matter what age, or how many years it has been since being in the dating scene, do take this first step.  Online dating is easier because you can choose who you want to connect with.

2) Your profile is very important.  Always think ‘first impressions’, so a good picture of yourself is important (and do be honest with the picture)  and be honest about yourself.  You will get connections from those who like who you are.

So much to share…stay tuned for more!

I have read a number of articles on Baby Boomers and online dating. One particular article said  that Baby Boomers are more open to online dating – why – mainly because their kids are doing it, and not only doing it but finding Love Online! This has given Boomers a trust of online dating that they may not normally have. As well, the article reported that the majority of online dating membership sites are seeing that the age range of people joining is the Baby Boomer age group and they are paying attention.  So this means that you will find more and more online dating sites catering to Baby Boomers.  But don’t wait – now is the time to try an online dating site(s) to find your love. Yes I know you can, I did!

Well after a long period of not posting at Blogger we decided to get rolling again… But with a fresh installation of WordPress instead of using Blogger. Stay tuned… Just got this up and will be posting and adding features.  Thanks for dropping by!

Jaca