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I don’t know where I got this idea, but when I finally decided that I was ready for a committed relationship, after what seemed like a lifetime of grieving Mike, I figured that it would take just a few months, or perhaps a little more than a few months, but for sure, I thought, with in a year, I would have met my second true love and be good to go. I forgot the fact that I got married to my late husband at the ripe old age of thirty-six. It took us that long to find each other.

But now I was 50, older and hopefully wiser, and I just assumed that men my age were like plums ready for the plucking.  How hard could it be? All I really wanted was a nice guy. Just a plain ole nice guy.

You know…

• A guy who I could talk to; who would listen to me as I poured my heart out.
• A guy who would be OK with the fact that I still occasionally thought about Mike and who would also love my daughter.
• A guy who was financially solvent and would love to travel (on my schedule, of course).
• A guy who didn’t smoke or drink and who believed in God. He would also be bright, a good kisser, love his work, be self assured without being cocky, be generous, kind and respectful, socially comfortable, and he would know how to fight fair.
• And he had to be OK with giving me lots of space. I didn’t want any one hanging on me.
• Oh yeah, he had to smell good, he didn’t have to be gorgeous, (that never really mattered to me) but he had to feel good about who he was.
• Oh, and it would be good if he could dance and ski be willing to do the dishes and occasionally vacuum.  And get along with my friends.
• He would love coffee in bed on Sunday mornings and even better, he would want to be the one to make it and he would read the New York Times, although I suppose I could settle for the Globe.
• He would definitely be a liberal. And he had to like dogs. (My cat will be leaving the house when my daughter does so I did not feel the need to include ‘must love cats’ and furthermore I didn’t want to make my list impossibly difficult.) 
• And just a few more things…he had to love to laugh, to appreciate classical music, be mentally stable, or at least as stable as I was, (not all that hard) and he HAD to be healthy. (After living with Mike’s cancer for over 10 years, I felt fully justified in asking for a clean bill of health.  This would include satisfactory results of an MRI, CAT scan, PET scan, liver scan, blood work, EEG and cardiogram. In return, I would spring for the coffee.)

And finally, he would have to think I am sexy, or at least sexy for a 50 something, he would like to read, he would be into learning, and he would have a clean house.

Ok. Maybe I wanted a bit more than a plain ole nice guy. But now that I was done crying, wasn’t the world was my oyster? Weren’t there plenty of fish in the sea? Couldn’t I just apply “The Secret” and materialize my next man?

I gathered up my can-do attitude and wrote a killer profile.  It was a work of art as well as honest and with the help of spell check, there were no typos. I used phrases like “classic looking”, “mildly eccentric” and “slightly irreverent” and I admitted that I liked to shovel snow. What sane man wouldn’t find that totally appealing???

And then I waited. Being a child of the 50’s, although quite liberated, I was not going to chase after him. He was going to have to find me. And after what felt like 8 years, (actually it was about 2 days), the emails began trickling in. And I do mean, trickling.

I have learned a whole lot from Internet dating.

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Mie Elmhirst, Coach, Guest Author
Coach for Widows
www.widowsbreathe.com

I recently connected with a childhood friend.  Don’t you just love the internet?!

Both of us are newly married.  I am just over 6 years and she is just over 2 years.  This is not a first marriage for either of us. When I asked her how she met her husband she told me at an online dating site.  I excitedly told her that’s how I met my husband too.  How exciting to share this!

She said she is not a ‘geek’, did not use the internet much at all, but decided to sign up at an online dating site.  The short story is she saw his profile and clicked to send a message, he replied, they chatted, met, and the rest is ‘history’.

What I want you to know from this story is:

1) No matter what age, or how many years it has been since being in the dating scene, do take this first step.  Online dating is easier because you can choose who you want to connect with.

2) Your profile is very important.  Always think ‘first impressions’, so a good picture of yourself is important (and do be honest with the picture)  and be honest about yourself.  You will get connections from those who like who you are.

So much to share…stay tuned for more!

I have read a number of articles on Baby Boomers and online dating. One particular article said  that Baby Boomers are more open to online dating – why – mainly because their kids are doing it, and not only doing it but finding Love Online! This has given Boomers a trust of online dating that they may not normally have. As well, the article reported that the majority of online dating membership sites are seeing that the age range of people joining is the Baby Boomer age group and they are paying attention.  So this means that you will find more and more online dating sites catering to Baby Boomers.  But don’t wait – now is the time to try an online dating site(s) to find your love. Yes I know you can, I did!

Well after a long period of not posting at Blogger we decided to get rolling again… But with a fresh installation of Wordpress instead of using Blogger. Stay tuned… Just got this up and will be posting and adding features.  Thanks for dropping by!

Jaca