Baby Boomer Dating Blog

Archive for October, 2011

Boomers face different issues than younger generations when it comes to online dating.  We may have grown children, grand children and aging parents.  These can have an effect on how you view online dating and how you connect with possible mates.

I don’t think you necessarily have to find a mate that matches your family dynamics, but it is something you need to think about.

Let’s look at some scenarios:

1. You have grown children and grand children that live near you.  This would mean that in all likelihood they would visit, possibly often.  So you would probably want to look for a man/woman who also has children and grand children as they would be more comfortable with the ‘visits’.  Now that is not to say a man/woman who does not have children wouldn’t be.  But if you did contact a man/woman who did not have children you would want to tell them about your family dynamics.  You would also, most likely, want to date someone in your own area.

2. You have grown children and grand children that don’t live near you.  So looking for a man/woman who also has children and grand children may not be an issue. Yes you and your new love may visit them, but on a day to day basis it would not be an issue.  You could look for a man/woman who did or did not have children.  You would just need to be open about your family dynamics so it would come as a shock when you want to visit them.  You could date someone local, another city or another country.

3. You don’t have children and may not want the ‘limitations’ of dating someone who has children / grand children.  For example you may want to travel extensively in your retirement.  You may want to only connect with men/women who don’t have children as well. That is not to say a man/woman with children or grand children couldn’t travel, but there certainly would be more to consider. You could date someone local, in another city, or another country.

4. You are a woman, or man, who didn’t have children but actually would love the family dynamics of children and grand children. When you connect with someone through online dating you just need to be open about that desire so the person you connect with feels confident that their family will not become an issue.

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Jan